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I wish I could tell you how that works... But apparently it does. There are probably reasons that she doesn't know herself. It also took her a while to figure out where the "wrong feeling" came from. It really sucked for me too, feeling that something is wrong it the relationship without having any idea why or what. Turns out it was the lack of love I received. Reviving the relationship was also my idea as soon as I knew. But she did not want to. And I realized that if the other person isn't interested in saving it, you alone have no chance.
Now I'm just afraid that I won't find someone that nice again. And if I ever do, when?
I feel this. When me and him split I tried so hard for 2 months to try and fix things and try to get the relationship back but he said there was no hope and it crushed me. I spent every day of those two months crying and spiralling. And yep, I realized that too, I was wasting my time and effort because if they didn’t want to, then nothing will change :/ and that itself was such a hard pill to swallow. I know you’re afraid but you will either time, I sound hypocritical because I think the same too but I know it’s not true.. it took me 5 years after my last relationship to be able to say “I love you” to him and mean it. I never felt that way, hence why I’m CRUSHED right now. But I’m here if you want to message me and vent about anything you’re thinking of or want to get off of ur chest without judgement.
Yeah exactly, it simply is the worst.
Yk, one the one side I know that I most likely will meet someone as nice or nicer again but at the same time I'm still afraid that I won't. It just sounds impossible, even though I know it's not. It's weird. But thank you for that offer, seriously. Same goes for you too, of course.
You will and so will I, but we just won’t ever know how long it’ll take :| I can’t imagine myself falling for another guy to be honest. Went out the other day for my friends bday and her bf brought his friend so I don’t third wheel and I t made me miss him 100x more. Also saw someone who resembled him and tried to not cry on the street, I can’t have ruined her bday. But damn it hurt like a bitch.
Yeah, I feel that. I guess we will see. Eventually. Now I think about how I discover these messages years in the future when everything has changed. That will be fun
I’m fighting crazy urges to not text him.. the urge to ask him if he’s satisfied with the closure or not is killing me. I wanna see his face again in PERSON so fucking bad, I want to hug him, I want to play with his hair, I want to kiss his face 🥺 I want to just be with him, in his presence, even if it’s quiet.
And yep, these messages will be very different then than now.
Oh yeah, how much I can feel that urge... Yk when I texted with her, I did ask her if she is happier now and if she wants to text me and so on. The same that you want to ask really. You can imagine how she replied. I still miss her so much, especially during the evening and night when I'm not distracted by something else
she said shes happier eh ;c i dont wanna know the answer i may get from him. i know hes hurting but fuck
Kinda, yeah. In a nice way but yeah. Anyway, I need to go to bed now. The time where I miss her the most. Her not lying next to me is just a horrible feeling. But I think it helped me a little, talking with someone who goes through the same rn. You know that there always are people going through that, but at least I don't know anyone. Actually feeling that youre not alone is nice. So thank you for that. We can do it. Even for me it's difficult to believe, but we will get over it. Eventually.
On a completely unrelated note, I need to vent about something. I just need to tell someone what happened to me. I just returned from a long trip. I had my bicycle locked at the train station for 3 days. When I came back, my wheels were stolen. Whyyyy? I had to walk home now. And I need my bicycle tomorrow. I need it all the time. That's the first time that something was stolen from me. It feels so bad. Why do people do that. That made me lose all faith in society rn. Whyyyy
I did something horrible too the past couple days. I added like two people back who I used to game with all the time (one I had a sexual past with). My loneliness got to me. I regret doing this because I see no point of it. But now I feel guilt :/ one person added me on Snapchat and I asked who they were to also find out they were someone I did something with. I didn’t remove them…why? Why do I do dumb stuff when I’m lonely. I would not go see a guy or do anything as of now or anytime soon tbh, I am not ready, but why did I add these people… I feel like a horrible person. They all reached out and hoped I’m doing okay. 2 of them know I had to remove them because I knew it was the right thing to do.
Wait why do you feel guilt? What was the intention?
i dont know the intention, i just missed my old friends. theyre online tho