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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner change? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 26 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (5 children)

I could write an entire book on the reasons. The main factor was she cheated on me, wanted to make it work, I believed her, she hid the affair for 3 years (not very well) I discovered it again.

Men can be abused too. Yeah, I'm physically much bigger, but there is absolutely no way to defend yourself without looking like the bad guy, which she was well aware of.

She was also terrible in bed. And unfortunately about as sharp as a bowling ball and a few fries short of a happy meal.

Advice: Don't marry someone just because they are hot.

[–] teamevil@lemmy.world 6 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

Now I want to hear more about this intellectual monolith

[–] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago

this, uh..... cerebral menhir ?

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