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Since it won't happen the other way around, how do I get people to approach ME in public? (lemmy.world)

submitted 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) by Tudsamfa@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Now that we have determined in this thread that a friendly/flirty conversation is indeed not harassment, women are just people too, the old gender roles are dead and public parks are a singles hunting ground, how do I make it clear I'm open to being approached?

Since chatting someone up is out of the question for me, I'd rather hedge my bets on some women using those tricks all you Casanovas left in that thread on me. We're all progressive here, I don't see why the man must start this dance.

But I can't help but notice that this plan has not worked at all yet. How do I express I'm single and ready to mingle, except by just having that printed on my shirt? Like was said, having just a friendly conversation with any gender would be a start, can't remember those happening in a while either.

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[–] Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works 2 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (1 children)

Re: the old folks home - sometimes people do volunteer singing groups for entertainment. If you like singing and are halfway OK at it (or at least sound good in a group), I recommend it if you find the opportunity, and like the kind of music old people may enjoy (I dig the Kingston Trio hard now, which was a wildly unexpected turn of events).

To this day, one of my favourite memories was doing one of these shows with an audience member going off about banging dudes under the boardwalk after we sang "Under the Boardwalk", smoking banana peels, and all sorts of things that made her my favourite person over 70 (sorry Grandma).

[–] Donjuanme@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

Hell yes! Grandma was wild! I love old person stories, so many of them are fabricated, but also so many that I think are fabricated turn out to be legitimate. Oh you did party with (famous people from back in the day)? No shit...