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Since it won't happen the other way around, how do I get people to approach ME in public? (lemmy.world)

submitted 20 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) by Tudsamfa@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Now that we have determined in this thread that a friendly/flirty conversation is indeed not harassment, women are just people too, the old gender roles are dead and public parks are a singles hunting ground, how do I make it clear I'm open to being approached?

Since chatting someone up is out of the question for me, I'd rather hedge my bets on some women using those tricks all you Casanovas left in that thread on me. We're all progressive here, I don't see why the man must start this dance.

But I can't help but notice that this plan has not worked at all yet. How do I express I'm single and ready to mingle, except by just having that printed on my shirt? Like was said, having just a friendly conversation with any gender would be a start, can't remember those happening in a while either.

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[–] megane_kun@lemm.ee 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

attach yourself (politely) to the person who comes to help

This probably explains some of the interactions I've had when all I wanted to do is to help someone in need. Not in the gym, but mostly in the streets. Like someone getting lost, and offering to show them the way. Or offering my seat to the elderly.

But really, being helpful sometimes is all it takes for give someone the reason to talk to you (and vice versa). Not that I managed to be in a relationship with this kind of a start.

[–] Donjuanme@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

I hate it as a tactic that's been used on me, but darn if it isn't effective. Also I genuinely appreciate people who offer their advice when I'm doing something foolishly, but my actions are from a place of genuine ignorance, not trying to catch someone into my friend circle.