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[–] lennybird@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Thanks for writing this! This makes a lot of sense to me. I echo the same in terms of the aversion to toxicity and competitive nature (like a little friendly competition can be positive, but beyond that...). Here in America that shit is rampant especially among right-wing circles and it's so tiresome. My wife said she was attracted to me because I wasn't like her dad, like most other men in her life that fell into this toxic masculine competitive crap. I'd rather see more cooperative engagement.

Where I diverge is just my lack of interest or desire to wear women's clothing, makeup, poise, etc. Don't get me wrong! I have no problem with anyone along any combination of the sex/gender axis enjoying those things, but yeah just not something I've yearned for myself, which explains why I may not have gender dysphoria? I don't know. But this has helped me understand why others do!