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Toxic people can also be fun, helpful, and even friendly. They can also be toxic. As too can I. Generally you want to avoid toxic people if you can... but you can't always do that (e.g. your boss, a parent especially if you are still young, etc.).
My advice is to focus more on yourself and your own issues, over which you have maximum control (and also responsibility). e.g. if several people can gaslight you, while nobody else around you is getting gaslit by any of them, then you are the common thread. I'm not trying to blame you to be clear - what do I know? - just offer food for thought (and anyway, it takes two to tango - so part of that would be their responsibility, but part is also yours?).
You can become immune to many forms of toxicity, by identifying those areas inside yourself that need bolstering, and working on them. Like therapy?
But that's tangential to your point. Yeah it's good to identity toxic YouTubers and avoid watching them:-). There are so very MANY red flags. And paying attention to those and avoiding the ones who display them is an example of you taking responsibility for your own mental health and stability - kudos! :-)