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Confronting them with the flaws in their thinking only makes them double down:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/darwins-subterranean-world/202401/why-do-people-double-down
If they won't change their mind, is doubling down any different than continuing to believe what they already believe?
They actively reject the evidence and believe what they want to an even greater degree.
How is the outcome any different when the end result is them continuing to hold the same opinions contrary to evidence?
Doubling down makes them even more entrenched, then they start believing CRAZIER things.
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I mean, this is psychology, not politics or logic. When someone is told not to do something they feel they have the right to do, they are more likely to do it. When someone is told they're stupid when they have been trained to feel correct and logical, they are more likely to stand by that belief. If a figure that they have developed a vicarious, parasocial relationship with is validly criticized, they will denounce the critic as if it were an attack on the core of their being, rather than agree with the critique.
These right-wing beliefs are like psychological parasites, ticks. The only correct solutions are to remove it with surgical precision with a careful plan. Prodding it and squeezing it is what you instinctively want to do, but that just makes it dig in further.
People think that they are rational, but rational thought has virtually nothing to do with right-wing beliefs. Instead, it's all about feelings. They believe whatever they feel is true, and bury themselves in echo chambers where everyone believes the same things, so that they aren't confronted with cognitive dissonance.
And, importantly, have convinced themselves that anyone arguing against them is doing the exact same thing. Classic projection.
When their alt right beliefs bite them in the ass they don't change their mind.
What kind of careful approach do you think is going to magically work? Why would any approach make anything better or worse when they won't change due to direct negative impacts to themselves from their own actions.
Well, a single action is never going to de-program these people. You ask why any approach would make anything better or worse, but I noted why certain approaches make things worse. I don't know how to affirmatively convince these people, but I'd say a necessary (even if not sufficient) condition to making things better is not making them worse.
Cool, cool. Let's placate the bullies and hope for the best!
Genuinely confused - I never said or thought that we should placate anyone. Just advocating that we think through the methods we use when we communicate and the effect it will have.
If we can't call them out on their bullshit then we are placating them.
Can't tell if you're talking about religion or conservatives.
Just kidding, it's the same mental weakness being exploited in both groups.
It's like Trump himself, saying bullshit like it's the first he's ever heard of it or whatever.
Which is why direct confrontation is always a bad idea. You basically have to guide them into coming to the correct conclusion on their own without overtly trying to convince them.
Thanks for chiming in, Genocide Jordan.
You guys must hate it when I point this stuff out:
https://lemmy.world/comment/16101271