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I mean as in Spy x Family. Everyone has a secret they hide from everyone else, even their closest people.

Do you think real life is like that?

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[โ€“] biscuitswalrus@aussie.zone 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

People have different facets. The way I interact with my partner for ten years is different to my close friends I've had for 20, different to my co-workers, different to my family. But my family and friends and co-workers see how I act with my partner.

I mimic people to some extent treating them similarly how they treat me. There are limits though, I'm bounded on that scale by my personal values which mature as I do. So I'm still never going to act outside the bounds of my morality and values, but I'll still treat my partner with unconditional love, and my friends with the best times and silly jokes.

These I don't consider masks, but not everyone sees me the same. They're just facets.

Yes. There are many different traits that I would all call a part of me but how much I act out on them is different between different people.

In some groups there are topics that define me for the other members, while in other groups the members don't know I even care for this topic

I overact some traits but what topic I overact os different in each group