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Have used the apps on and off for a while. When things didn't go well on them and swiping and chatting only to be ghosted was taking a toll on me, I deleted them and focused on other things in my life for a few months, then returned.
When I still set myself as looking for men on the apps, I'd get a 10:1 ratio of likes from men to women/NB. Men who swiped on me would often be obviously incompatible if they read my profile or have minimum effort profiles. So I turned off looking for men on the apps.
Where I live is pretty accepting of LGBTQ+ people and there's a good sized queer scene IRL so I can easily find events to meet queer people. However I have severe RBF, generally act unapproachable in-person, look a little scary, am clueless to hints, and don't drink or party, so for meeting women I use the apps and IRL events specifically for single people.
Not a lot of success so far, but I've learned a LOT about what I don't like in a person. I've learned to listen to my instincts. When things felt off and I carried on with the dates I met on the apps, things went badly. As a result, I'm much more in touch with what I want too. I was in a long-term relationship for years before where I compromised too much and settled with someone who I never should have. Dating many people has allowed my own preferences and desires to resurface and has given me a lot of confidence and self-esteem back.