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Something no one seems to have mentioned in this thread is what a huge culture change Tinder was. Tinder singlehandedly made online dating mainstream. Before Tinder I've literally had a couple of women tell me they would never meet anyone from online dating sites, that it just reeks of desperation, that it's like putting an ad in a newspaper for a date and there's no substitute for meeting someone in real life. A couple of years later everyone is on Tinder (including those same people). People shifted almost entirely to online dating and approaching anyone asking for a date IRL became "too forward and unwelcome".
I think online dating has always been a cesspool of women getting creepy and threatening messages and guys shouting into the void with unreplied messages. Sure it pays off for some (I've seen some friends get dates and hookups, but back then no one wanted to admit to meeting online), but the widespread acceptance of these platforms hasn't changed the fact that every website and app is just an enshitified mess.