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honestly...just find new friends doing the things you want to do. maybe occasionally reach out to the old ones in attempt to get them out of these algo-bubbles...but you can't/shouldn't put your life on hold trying to help people who don't even recognize they have a problem.
they're essentially addicts...until some messaging gets through to them and they see they have a problem, it's just wasted effort with likely no payoff.
if you want to hangout with people irl interested in doing more things irl...go to those events and meet the people going to them, that's where they'll be.
edit/ far as helping those people out of their algo-traps...well, old comedies they probably saw growing up tend to work pretty good. maybe suggest some old movie-day hangout type thing? i always liked the classic jim carey movies. yes man in particular, is pretty much tailor made for this scenario.
This is basically what I've been doing but you've summed it up well. For the main 2 that do the sending daily of the reels they do actually enjoy similar things but as you say they are addicts atm. Both had the time of their lives doing laser tag not long ago but its getting them out the house to do anything. Both have kids too and when I go to make that effort it's apparent it's rubbing off on the kids. If money is the issue that's why I am open to getting the tickets to things, most of what we do isn't over $30 each most the time anyways and the kids can go have a good time offline as well. The beaches nearby cost money to go to for example so it's like $40-5p total for the access to enjoy it for the day and everyone loves it every time and the kids sleep the ride back. Working on the newer friends though, I don't drink much while living in a boozy city I moved back to last year so it's a slower than expected process but it's happening.
Such good advice and so sad as well