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Interesting. Would you care to address any of the sentiment I have expressed within the framework of the OP?
Or do you just want to attack me?
Care to share anything about yourself, your lived experience? I’m not even sure you qualify to comment on my thoughts at all.
Do you have or have you ever been in an LTR? How long? Is it successful? Kids? What are your regrets? What do you struggle with? Are you, ahem, a man?
Consider the OP. I certainly didn’t just pop up with this. The premise is literally that a huge majority of married men express regret. Then I share my experience. Here you come “pshaw that’s not even real!! You are sick and need help.”
Hmmm. I wonder who is honestly working through their issues and who is simply denying. I’m willing to bet it isn’t me. Or perhaps we are just different.
You are literally talking about seeing women as prizes to be "won", and wanting collect as many as you can in a harem. That sounds more like you see women as objects. That is not a healthy attitude, hence why I told you to get therapy.
And I mention Andrew Tate because this is the exact kind of stuff he preaches, and unfortunately a lot of men are gollowing his grift. If you're surrounded by enough men that you think this attitude towards women is normal for men, you need to get out of that social bubble for the mental health of both you and your family. There's the old adage of "you are the company you keep".
But if you're going to get defensive about it, that's on you. If you want to ruin the lives of you and your family by not getting help then that's your problem. I just feel bad for your wife and kids for all the trouble you're going to drag them through