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I've been in your situation, and had friends in your situation. So here's my advice.
Get them nothing.
Others have suggested baked goods or something which is fine if you can bake but they know exactly where your life is right now.
Instead, write them a letter, a physical letter in ink, on a nice card or something, expressing how grateful you are for their help and you're so happy to spend the holidays with them. It's what I did, it's what others did when I helped them out. It's all that should be needed. I'm still extremely close with all of them and we now shower each other with gifts to make up for then.
Just my 5¢ (adjusted for inflation)
This is an excellent suggestion. Just sayin' bc it would have never occurred to me.
This. I've helped a few people over the years and I've been helped too and with experience on both sides nothing is as impactful as the recognition of how much the help has improved life. A card which says something about the difficulties and how the help felt to receive can be a massive positive, more than any potted plant or simple gift. It lasts forever and is something they can come back to time and again.
Yeah! I was thinking a heartfelt card, but a letter might be even better.