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I think there are many reasons.
Some people are legitimately miserable in their marriage because they shouldn't have gotten married. They married for the wrong reasons, or to the wrong person.
Some people complain about their spouses because they think they have to. They do it like a bonding ritual. If you don't join in, you get excluded.
Finally, since you say every man you talk to says being single is better, I think it might have something to do with who you're talking to.
If you were talking to me, I wouldn't say being single is better. However, I married the right person for the right reasons. I've been with my wife for over 39 years and married for 32.
Relationships require a certain degree of maturity from both parties. I know some people who have been married multiple times, and I used to wonder how they had the energy for a second, third, fourth marriage. Then I realized it was because they aren't putting any effort into the relationships. They weren't looking for a spouse. They were looking for a substitute mommy or daddy.