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one of the many reasons I've heard is that men are unhappy with the financial benefits it entitles the woman to.
IMO receiving money in the event of divorce is one of the few ways a woman is protected while living a "traditional" lifestyle; when she leaves the workforce to care for a home and children, she's both giving up a the opportunity to save and invest capital, AND she's giving up becoming experienced in her field. Giving up the experience means she that if she loses financial support and attempts to return to the workforce, she would have to do so in a junior role in her field, if she can find work at all. Things like alimony and division of assets are, at least imo, a completely fair compensation for the unrespected but very real work of homemaking.
And while that's ultimately not a lifestyle that suits me personally, there are a lot of men who want a tradwife, but don't respect that that's going to require them to be a trad husband. One of the reasons I got married as a working / career oriented woman was that I thought my domestic house husband deserved financial security in payment for supporting my career. I think a lot of it really does just come down to the underlying misogyny of not considering homemaking to be a legitimate profession when it's been fundamental to society longer than written record.