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Married 7 years, wouldn't trade it for the world
That said, being single is easier/less complicated.
Marriage is all about compromise, it's basically impossible that you're going to 100% agree on absolutely everything with your spouse, and you're both flawed humans odds are once in a while you're gonna do something that pisses each other off, you're going to have to occasionally put your own stuff on the back burner to help with theirs etc.
And that's hard for a lot of people.
And arguably might be even harder for a lot of men with toxic masculinity, societal expectations, gender roles, etc. not gonna pick that apart too much right now.
Also, in a lot of cases, it may be worth not taking things too seriously, everyone's got a different sense of humor, and jokes don't always land the right way. My wife and I pretty regularly joke about wanting a divorce, but it is absolutely 100% a divorce. I usually get threatened with it over making a stupid pun or dad joke, for example, hardly serious grounds for a divorce.
I'm not sure going through life alone in this meat grinder of a world is actually easier or less complicated than marriage. It's certainly difficult and complicated in different ways.