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I mean you were looking down on her.
But what did you imagine about her wealth? Or her neediness?
Let's turn it around: I am the one with the money now. What if I would offer you in public: I will give you another $90 if I can insult you afterwards, and then you agreed just because you needed the money so badly?
Maybe your next grocery shopping would be secured, but you would be humiliated, even before I started insulting you.
Back to your story: That's why she tried to refuse the 5$. But then you forced it on her.
Wow, you need to look inward. You've either been hurt or you dislike people trying to be decent.
oh interesting thank you for explaining. i do understand! that is sort of what i was thinking as far as wondering if i had done an actual good deed or if it could cause an overall net negative like that. You see the net negative possibility of how it turned out that also caught my attention i think.
unrelated because my behavior wasnt based on it, but in answer to your question she seemed middleclass and not poor nor a scrounger; probably wealthier than me (my behavior was a combination of 'sharing bounty that just befell me, doing good deed, plus she had just wished it'. It was a rare opportunity to instantly fulfill someone's wish. Didn't think of class stuff at all in the moment, but also i rarely do as a person)
thank you for the explanation! I appreciate the perspective!