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Did I do a good deed or bad deed? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago by allo@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I was just grocery shopping and mysteriously had an extra 90$ on my foodcard. So I exclaimed to the cashier, "wow i love surprise extra money". The person in line behind me said, "i wish i got surprise money". So I took 5$ and tossed it in her bag, she said "No Wait Dont!" but I had already spun around and was on my way out of the store.

So what was that? Good or bad?

A good deed because it was kindness and generousity? Did her stating she didnt want it make it immoral and thus i should have stayed so she could give it back? Did it all happen as it was supposed to so that she would display herself as nonneedy, I could do the kindness, and, by leaving before anything could change, the state of reality was frozen as is for us beings within?

Please tell me whether I'm good or evil; thank you! :)

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[–] poweruser@lemmy.sdf.org 17 points 3 days ago

I agree with the consensus that this was a good thing to do.

It was perfect to leave before the shopper could reject it because it allows her to save face. Either she did need it but was too proud to admit it, or she actually didn't need it and can just pay it forward.

Since you left quickly it made it clear there was no expectation that she should pay it back to you specifically, which could have had unsavory implications