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I will get down voted for this. But if you want an answer, here's what I believe happens:
Initially young men were mostly okay with social left, because: "let gay people be gay", "don't treat women worse than men", "don't be hateful to foreigners" are easy to agree to, they follow the principles of "let people do whatever they want if it doesn't affect you", "every human should be treated equally" and "don't hate entire groups of people for attributes they can't control, some individuals are good and some are bad in every group".
However, social left has moved the goalpost. Now it is: "we have to change the rules for the trans", "we have to give women privilege to compensate for misogyny", "we have to give minorities privilege to compensate for X-ism" which follow different principles than the first paragraph. And with the moving of the goalpost comes "if you are to the right of the goalpost after being moved, you are a fascist and a Nazi and I don't wanna hear what you have to say".
I liked and agreed with the first paragraph a lot. But I don't like the second one at all. And I believe this happens to a lot more young men.
That being said, I'm not retarded, I would never fote for a right wing party, specially since they are doing the same and moving the goalpost to the right so much that most of them are actually fascists.
I've been in the leftmost spaces most of my adult life. Accommodations for nuance have generally cost me a few calories in processing thought and not misgendering people but tha'ts it. It was annoying at times to learn new things but the impact on my ability to experience and navigate the world was nil. The benefits were that i got to have deeper connections with my friends of various genders and ethnicities.
I think if someone's coming from an unchallenged experience of masculinity that when people ask for accommodation they feel it as a personal attack because they never had to expend a single calorie of energy on it before, and now someone is asking them to.
It also just takes a looooong time (decades even) to get over one's own insecurities because it's easy to hide those behind a mask of masculinity. That part takes a lot more effort whereas the manosphere tells you that you don't have to climb that mountain because actualization is achieved hiding behind that mask.
This is it.
Equality feels like oppression when you're privileged.
Couldn't be me talking from personal experience 🫠