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If you haven't accepted it by now then it is unfortunately a part of life. I've tried upholding several friendships with established connections that stemmed from the days I lived in my old state for 29 total years of my life. I've been gone from there for over 3 and a half years now and I just felt like we have picked the directions we've picked and this is where we are all going.
It's quite sad honestly, because I know as much as I wish to, I've no hope of even visiting my old state. The traveling would be taxing and I'd only have a small window of time to see anyone anyways. I just recently allowed my FB to be permanently deleted which contained my local friends and I did that as part of the acceptance that we're likely not to see eachother again. Because we all excelled when we're all together in person.
I am under the belief that sometimes, friendships are meant to expire. When they stop doing anything for you and the progressing and building of relations grow to fade because we've held on to old memories that stopped being relevant. The hard truth is that at somepoint, people have to be let go. I have a harder time calling someone a friend when we go so long without doing anything with eachother or even communicating.
Technically some people may see me as the bad friend but honestly, I have tried to hold on to friendships where I knew that it had expired and I wasted enormous amounts of time doing that.