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Join your town's local discord server. If it has two, one is the shit one. If it doesn't have one, start it. I started a city discord that grew to over 600 members in two years. Is important to delegate as you grow and encourage all members to try organizing and leading events if they like, at least trying once.
If you can't host, you'll need to recruit at least one person that can before the ball gets rolling.
If you like discussing books and films, which are some of my favorite things, movie nights are great easy get togethers and if you don't have a member with a big living room and TV you can all go to the cinema together (but that's expensive).
A book club can even be done in a voice channel.
If your town has a boardgame cafe, that's really good to take prospective friend groups.
If you don't have that option, look for community organizations with a building, such as a progressive church. Unfortunately that will put some members off events, especially members of many minority groups.
Hiking is free and doesn't require securing a venue.
You can gain a lot of real (not nebulous internet) community, friends, gratitude, and (to put it bluntly) clout.
During the summer y'all can hang out in parks.
If you're looking for inclusive spiritual community you can look for Unitarian Universalist congregations. They're all over Europe and North America. They're based on progressive values instead of Scripture so you bring your own deity/pantheon/no deity. They're basically a spiritual community for the left from Pagans to Christians/Jews/Muslims to atheists and agnostics and everyone else.
In my area there are a lot of ageing hippies and a lot of millennials and Gen Z looking for community for their children which is a delightful mix. Lots of LGBTQ+ representation as well.
Could be a useful place to look!
i do all of this. it doesn't make any difference. all it does is lead to shallow boring connections based on whining and commiserating about how life here sucks. people in the book clubs don't read the books, they also just want to whine about their lives.
every volunteer group i join... just ends up being a group of core people who want to exclude new people for not looking/talking/thinking just like they do and jerking themselves off about how wonderful and perfect they are and then whining how they can't get new people to join them...
I left my volunteer groups because they became so exclusivist and elitist.