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I'm assuming your age but I think its normal when people hit early adulthood to start drifting a direction and possibly start losing contact. At least for a few people, not everyone.
That being said, there's a lot of unnatural disconnect lately due to stress and such and I think people tend to 'replace' them with parasocial or low effort social media relationships instead. Basically if you're overwhelmed you can get some socializing in on Facebook or Instagram or the Ask Lemmy section of the fediverse and it feels like communicating but its actually leaves you wanting more but with less energy than before.
There's also a possibility they're dealing with something they haven't been able (or wanting) to talk about.
The things that have worked for me are low bar meetups. That is, not a lot of time or effort to join. Like hey I'm jumping on XYZ game tonight, who's down. Or there's a new coffee shop near your house, want to check it out, etc.
originally it was codependancy between 2 people, usually its one sided, i noticed that alot in college years, people couldnt do anything like study if the other person isnt doing it or not nearby, or in a lab, they couldnt do anything without the other person helping them. once one of them questions the nature of thier "relationship" it gets super wierd and becomes like breakup in a workplace, which makes it awkward.
parasocial is like next level CPDncy, its someone you dont even know, and this makes people more stalkerish, or creepy.