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The radiator makes unbearable noises throu out the night, which drives her insane. We think that this is due to air pockets in the pipes, we can hear crackling and water drops.
The heating system is common to the whole building, and I cant turn off hot water.
How do i open this shit
ITT: People telling OP to break up with her because we are absolutely certain that she is crazy and only gave him one afternoon to fix this, and there is no way she could have been losing sleep for days or weeks while asking him to do something about it, like hold the landlord accountable.
I thought you were being hyperbolic and then scrolled down.
Holy shit, it's no wonder sex and relationships are crashing through the floor right now. Ya'll don't know how to have human interactions anymore.
Nobody bats an eye when it's worded like "My bud told me I couldn't do this in 8 hours, said I should call a pro, I said I could do it." You people out there have no idea what the tone is like here.
If your partner isn't a friend who can challenge you and be your "bud" you're not with a good partner. Is this what you guys think relationships are really like? Dancing on fucking eggshells and being given ultimatums? It's a goddamn self report.
While I agree with this, if it bothers her she can take care of it her own damn self.
I guess op could want to take a crack at it before calling the super. But like. Figure your shit out.
Why can't she call the landlord, cat got her tongue?
How do you know she's the main tenant and not on a sublease? How do you know what OP means when he said his GF 'gave' him one afternoon? If he doesn't get it fixed, she'll do what? Stop coming over? Stop sharing finances? Break up?
So many unasked questions and yet everyone is quick to assume that the GF is insane. I wonder why that is.a
Look if I were to guess I'd say most probably she never said anything of the kind, and that's just the op making his otherwise dull question a little spicy for the people to get involved.
But if you take the post at face value and set aside all your biases, you have to agree that this sounds kinda bitchy and entitled. Truth is we don't know anything about the situation, so we can only go with what op gave us. We don't know if he's the owner or just renting, what country he's in, or even if he's a he btw.
From what was said alone, the question that I have is why is it op's responsibility to do something about it. Seems like a household problem that op didn't cause and one that if she lived alone she would have to deal with somehow. So asking someone else to fix it and setting ultimatums sounds like someone who's used to having servants.
People don't generally set ultimatums unless it's something that has been bothering them for a long time and hasn't been addressed.
The way you call OP's girlfriend 'bitchy and entitled' just reeks of misogyny when she never got to tell her side of the story. People like you should be setting aside your own biases and ask if OP is a reliable narrator, instead of taking everything at face value because a man's word is more trustworthy than his account of a woman's word to you.
People like me huh? You literally know nothing about me yet you figured me out in two seconds. I didn't draw any conclusions from the original post, I took it at face value. You're the one apparently making up stories about a man's word and bs. You don't even know if op is a man, you just fucking assumed. I'm sorry for you and for those around you. You sound absolutely insufferable.
You're simpler than you think you are. Explosive temper in your response, grasping at straws and deflecting, calling women bitchy on a stranger's word.
Some therapy could help with that. Feel sorry for yourself first before feeling sorry for others.
You are desperately deflecting from the fact that you assumed OP's gender. How about we start with that acknowledgement and move on from there. If you like we can dissect every little facet of this silly post we're arguing over. Imho - and given that you already judged me so harshly - here's some back. You seem to have some issues with men, you appear to be looking for abusers everywhere, probably from past trauma. Once again, I'm terribly sorry for whatever may have happened to you, but it's affecting your judgment in a terrible way and it makes you seem toxic. I hope you're aware and working on that. I'm sure you can overcome it if you acknowledge it.
Or maybe people aren't that serious about it