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This is the most autistic thing I’ve read in a month.
People keep telling me this in many situations. Sigh.
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So...i hate to add to it...but my husband is mildly autistic and we've had this exact conflict with gift giving early in our marriage.
He sees the act of gift giving very logically and practically, which is perfectly fine, but i didnt really understand this early on in our relationship. We eventually sat down, talked about how we each felt, and it clicked that we had a disconnect on the social/emotional layer of gift giving. I saw and felt that gift giving was more of an act of showing the other person they crossed your mind; a display of emotion. On the other hand, my husband saw and felt gift giving was more about making sure the item is exactly what the other person wants, including if that item is "nothing"; logical, literal, and practical.
Sit down together and talk. Use "I" statements, keep calm voices, and dont interrupt. The goal is to express how you feel, listen to how they feel, and work together to help each other understand both perspectives.
And that is the first, and so far only, comment you engage with.
They can go fuck themselves if they aren't going to explain that. Being autistic isn't a god damned reason for you to be insulted.
You might be autistic and don't know it. Any of us might be.
That person is a piece of shit for treating autism like it's a slur. And also shitting all over your clear attempt to try to understand this situation.
I would be pissed if someone did that to me and then makes me out to be some villain because they fucked up on their gift.
I didn’t say it as a slur. The fact that you took it that way says more about you than me. The situation described is textbook autistic behavior.
You didn't explain it or provide any additional context. You used it exactly as it has been used, word for word, as is used when it's being used as a slur.
I was clear to say without an explanation it is a slur.