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I had a comically bad day yesterday, like dropping things, almost lost my keys down the drain on the sidewalk, spilled soup at the store near a makeup section, almost tore my pants, got back from the store only to find out I was out of TP, etc.

It was more funny than anything else, like so much random trivial bad luck in one day is like something out of some 90s Tom Hanks comedy.

But there was one thing that actually annoyed me - on my way back from the store on my grocery trip, my phone suddenly went from a healthy 7% to 0% and died. I was stuck with no music for the remainder of the walk back.

Soooo I was forced to listen to the sound of well - nothing at all basically.

Just birds chirping, wind blowing, leaves rustling, all as I walked the same path I walk all the time and see the same things I've seen hundreds of times, just waiting to get home.

Don't get me wrong I love where I live and everything, it's a really cool city with good pedestrian infrastructure, I almost never even get close to a car and it's not some smelly euro village either, but seeing the same things I've already seen and having no stimuli at all, it wasn't that big a deal but it was unpleasant.

That got me thinking - I sometimes see folks not wearing earphones outside, and I've heard on more than one occasion from some acquaintances that they don't listen to music outside, and I wonder - why's that?

Why would you choose to do that?

And, what do y'all like, do, exactly? How do you deal with the monotony of your grocery trips or things like that when you don't even have music on? Do you just never get bored of walking the same roads/neighborhoods w/e day after day?

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[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com -3 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Would you like to elaborate on how exactly it's an addiction and how exactly it's unhealthy?

Do you want to describe why you think others don't do it when many others clearly do and it's obviously the case otherwise there wouldn't be headphones and millions of hours of music made every day and listened to every day and why it has been a thing since the dawn of civilization itself, if not before, that people create art and consume art?

Why do you think I said "everyone does it", even when I never said anything of the sort and posted comments directly contradictory to that ITT like the fact I said I personally don't know anyone else who does not listen to anything outside, (never even making it specific to music!), and I've stated that I do actually see people without earphones on - but they are a small minority amongst the earphone-wearing majority.

Would you like to elaborate on how exactly I miss the entire world around me when time and time again I've responded to this accusation within this thread by clearly stating that in fact - I do not "miss" much of anything, with one poster even literally creating a little test question I was easily able to answer.

Would you like to elaborate on why you assume I am young? Especially since I've literally stated elsewhere in the thread my age, but I'm almost 30, I've not had a smartphone until 2012, and had dial-up until after the GFC. I actually remember my childhood quite well and it was a happy one, I remember playing with actual physical toys for most of it and going outside and getting into all sorts of hijinks with the kids around the neighborhood.

Why do you assume I hadn't spoken to a mental health professional before?

I actually did therapy back when I had a brief bout of the sads due to experiencing institutional violence and medical neglect from the government and developing a gnarly stress response, we went over all sorts of coping mechanisms and healthy mindfulness and all that and not only did she never mention anything about my listening to music outside, but she was quite happy to hear me get excited and talk all about it, this wasn't some private paid yesman thing either, so she really didn't have to be nice or even keep me as a client, she'd be paid the same government pay either way.

So:

Is it possible that I do not have an "addiction", nor have you established in any way how even if I did it would be "unhealthy"?

That in fact - I do not "think literally everyone else has too", because I never said such a thing?

But that in fact many do as evidenced by the sheer size of the industry and the universal nature of the concept of music and the timeless nature of the arts plus the uniquity of headphones?

That in fact - I do not miss the "entire world around" or much of anything?

That in fact - I never declared it boring, nor made the accidental implication as you have that your world is little outside of a small, immediate environment?

That I have actually never met anyone IRL who finds anything at all about what I wrote in this thread weird whatsoever, nevermind jump to the conclusions you do or make the weird judgemental assumptions you do - and in fact, they listen to music roughly the same amount of time as me, sometimes frankly - more, even though we don't even listen to anything in common or talk about it?

Is it possible, that in fact, I am not quite young, as I have literally stated elsewhere ITT before you made your response?

That in fact - I have not developed any screen addiction, nor even had the time or option to as a child, and can certainly remember things every other way?

That in fact - as I stated, not only have I talked to a medical professional for unrelated matters and not only was she not seeing it as a problem, but actually saw it as a good thing that I would engage with the world?

That in fact - every point you've made so far has been so wildly off-base, every assumption wrong, every reasoning faulty, that maybe, just maybe - if you strain your big brain muscles real hard - you maybe just think some people are just different, and that instead of judgement, you could actually learn to appreciate other people's experiences, a food for thought, something to uh, meditate on, perhaps.

Is it possible, that maybe - just maybe - you are just plain wrong, on almost every level?

Because If I try on your shoes for just a moment - and pass down judgement like you have to me.

Then to me, it seems that the drivel you pass off as some sort of truth or reliable objective observation is merely armchair buzzword regurgitation undeserving of even the label of analysis, coming from a small, pitiful mind, resorting to judgement and condescension because it can handle little outside of your narrow and distorted view of normal built entirely on projecting externally the insecurities and issues deep within?

And it is your first steps to reflect and analyze what went wrong, why you treat people like this, how you can intellectually be honest and deal with and confront this narcissstic superiority complex that you unleash on any passerby who challenges your mental gospel?

That perhaps, it is worth critically reflecting on why anyone would treat people like this, online and god-forbid, IRL, if you do, and perhaps speak to a professional, or maybe just a friend, if you have one, about that?

Hey, at least you're not alone, many other snoozefest normadrones ITT for you to share that experience with, provided they are real people of course, and are not what they show themselves to be - low context length LLMs.