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Should I try to reconnect with a friend who's chosen to self isolate? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by Railcar8095@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Long story short. Friend with history is body and mental issues (mainly depression). I moved to a different country, so we talked less. For the past two year things went very one sided. I would text her and get reply much later. Never able to meet when I was in town.

Then, nothing. No answers at all. Text or calls. Friends tell me similar story. I keep texting sporadically, sometimes calling. After months I get a response. She's crying and saying shes sorry for not replying, that's she's not well in general and needs time. Problems with work, relationships, family and some tragedies all in short time.

That was months ago. Part of me thinks to give space, but another is worried because she's avoiding our common friends too. The only way to reach to her or even know how she is would be through her family, which is very intrusive.

Any advice?

Edit: fixed "In moved to a different country" to "I moved to a different country" as somebody misunderstood due to the typo

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Whats much later? People need to give me a week and then can start worrying although if I have a crazy busy weekend that would be the reason I did not get back within a week. Honestly fridays are kinda dangerous as I tend to work on stuff based on oldest first so that I don't get to behind. Granted priorities and situation. My wife will hear back in less than a day but it could be in person.

[–] Railcar8095@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Before this much later could be days, and we all just joked about how slow she was to answer in general. Just how she was.. That + distance made it so that I didn't realize something was off for some time. Then I reached to common friends and heard similar stories.

We are late 30s-40s, so with work, kids... It's way too easy to just move on and "forget" that you haven't heard from somebody in months I guess.