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When you were a kid/teen, how often do you have conversations with your parents? What is your relationship like now? And do you think there is a correlation? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I kinda just realized I never really talked much to parents besides the occasional mentions about school or news...

Which is likely why my first language kinda never developed beyond like 1st grade lexicon, since I use English outside of home, and also its the most common language on the internet most websites and media is English, its the lingua franca of the world..., so I never really got to use my first language much, not much conversations. Or perhaps its the other way around? Maybe the language barrier that caused me to not really able to have a conversation with my parents in the first place. Idk.

So... yea... relationship-wise nowadays... not that close... the reason is kinda self-evident lol

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I was not close with my mom, I was close with my dad but he died when I was 16. My relationship with her was ok when I was grown, she liked my kids and was a pretty good grandma for someone busy with a job. But we were not close.

My kids talk to me more as high schoolers and young adults, they ask for advice, discuss things, we are a lot closer, though the ones who moved away don't call much (like I texted one of them to ask if I'd pissed her off, it was so long, but she is just too much like me and so neither of us called, lol) but - the kids are all close with each other and I think that matters more in the long run.