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There is a case for ghosting. Some people sinply will refuse to stop interacting with you unless you forcibly cut it off by ignoring them. This is more or less what happened with my most recent ex
You get it.
I always feel like the anti-ghosting people just... have no active social lives. Therefore they can't comprehend with dealing with weirdos who require you to ghost/ignore them because they simple do not understand social cues and/or can't accept direct rejection. They always argue from social ideals where everyone is perfect and wonderful and there are no bad actors or ill-intentioned folks out there.
I notice people with active social lives don't really see anything wrong with ghosting... because it's just part of life and when you have an active social life strangers come and go into your life all the time and you don't think much about it. Especially as you get older and you don't dwell on peer acceptance as much as you do in your teens and 20s.
And it's always been part of life. You ignore people you don't like. You respond and engage people you like. But for some reason people can't simple get it through their heads... if the person liked them they would not be ghosting them. Ghosting isn't the issue... it's their self-esteem being offended that they tolerate.