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Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today's overwhelming and constant information and notification overload? Or do you find it offensive and unfriendly?

Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?

For this post let's assume the people involved are or were in the past friends, and ghosting is leaving someone on "read" for more than 2 days.

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[โ€“] gnomesaiyan@lemmy.world 22 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I got to be good friends with someone I met at work and we gamed online when we could. We'd be playing a game, and he would always get so angry, raging at the game into the mic (I'm the only one listening, mind you), actually getting angry at a video game. I would find it amusing at first, but it became exhausting after a while, so I would find other games to play or just go invisible on Steam. He'd call me every so often, asking what's up or if I was playing that night, but I'd find other things to do or say I wasn't playing much anymore. I really hate lying to people.

It wasn't until years later he started getting assault weapons, talking conservatively, and becoming toxic in general. I decided to ghost him because I felt I couldn't trust him anymore. It's really too bad, as he was a nice guy at first, but something changed in him and it gave me an icky feeling. I suppose it's for the better, as I have no idea how he would have handled my transition.

You did the right thing. In my opinion, that is a valid reason to ghost someone.