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Lemmings who made it out of incel-dom, what advice would you have to your previous self?
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That's what people mean when they say 'be yourself.' It's useful advice for someone in their late 20s or early 30s, when your frustrated by jerks and want to find the right person.
But it sounds useless to someone who is 16 and is trying to get the cheerleader to like him.
Yeah, unfortunately remembering what it was like back then the hard truth is I couldn't find someone to like me before I even know who I was. I had to build my personality and who I was before I could uh, "market" it. But, try telling my greasy faced basement dweller self that I had no personality, I would have been dejected at that. No my man (referring to younger me), there is so much more out there