Speaking to the post, I feel like there is a tipping point between OP and your points and the post is showing that. If you can convince the bank to loan you the money somehow you then start to build more capital which can pull you out of being “poor”. There are many variables and wildly varying degrees of this scenario, but once you start your ownership experience, some people can work it quite hard and build enough capital to own multiple residences and rent them out. (Those already in possession of capital are out of scope of OPs post.)

Rent is paying the landlord for everything every month. No repairs lately? Too bad, you’ll still pay for the possibility. The exchange is that you should never worry about repairs (or taxes) as the landlord handles everything. Once the landlord figures his margins are too tight, they raise the rent. Lots of variables here too and that makes blanket statements about which is better more difficult. I advocate home ownership, but I feel terrible for young people. Runaway greed by those that already had the capital has changed things. The young folks I know that are able to manage it all had help from relatives.

The act of convincing the bank and owning a home is getting more and more difficult. Impossible in many places and improbable in others without Herculean efforts. OPs post expresses this perspective.

[–] arrow74@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I personally grew up quite impoverished and me and my wife did manage to get our home in medium COL area. We don't have exceptionally high paying jobs nor did we have any help from our families. We just made a lot of effort to build our credit. We're also not old at all under 30 to not dox myself too much.

A lot of people simply have some wrong assumptions about the amount needed to get a loan. We put down 3%, sure we didn't get the most competitive rate and our payment is higher, but it worked out to the cost of our then comparable rent. There's quite a few federal programs that ensure the opportunity for a low downpayment mortgage for first time homeowners.

But that was just slightly before interest rates went insane, kinda on the way up

[–] KnightontheSun@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago

In a previous life I was a mortgage loan officer at a broker. I bent over backwards helping folks get into those programs whenever possible. I was impressed with how little was needed when everything slotted in place in some cases. Glad it worked for you too!