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Had a best friend for 15 years or more, lived together for a few years after uni, went separate ways and contact died off
I saw him come online on steam and sent a message asking how he was etc. he said he was fine. Monosyllabic after that.
I look him up on dormant socials and he got married, didn't mention it, no invite. Rest of the friend circle all there.
Cool cool cool.
Never hear from them either, so.. it may pay off for some people, or just be an embarrassing reminder of how easy it is for some people to discard you. Neurospiciness also a factor on my side too.
I'm the inverse. I abandoned all my friends because I had to move forward in my life and make my life better.
I look them up every so often. half of them are divorced, struggling, or dead. the other half are alcoholics and slowly walking towards deaths doorstep.
I got out because someone I cared about showed me I was worth more than I believed I was. They gave me a goal to achieve and I will be forever grateful.
my point is, sometimes people drift apart because it's time. look back on your time together with the same fondness you had in the moment and never forget you learned much from them, and still learn from them even if only indirectly.
even the worst examples can teach us something.