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I'm having trouble making friends. There is one guy sort of near me and we do things here and there, but he and his wife are about to move. Most of my other friends live far away.
I don't have a lot in common with the people I work with, or live near, and I don't have much energy to do things outside of work. There is more that I'd say but I'm acutely aware / paranoid that some ai tool is reading all of our comments and building profiles on us. I'm trying to build a better life and find more communities where I feel welcome, but it's slow going. Maybe that explains it somewhat?
Maybe you could tell us how you made 5 close friends in a new country.
I knew of one person here prior to moving though we never actually met beforehand. Also met up with an internet friend at some point.
Aside from those two, my partner and I searched for community events and went to quite a few. Met a lot of people there. Community events are honestly a fantastic jumping off point. Ideally things where you actually get a chance to talk to people, check out local bars' socials to see if there's anything.
Also made one or two friends randomly just hanging at a park.
The trick is that after you meet someone, you have to make an effort to see them again. Once you have a few close friends it's easier to get invited to other things.
Tbh, while I could start drinking more again just to meet people, bars are expensive these days. I can't afford friends nor dates. Unless maybe I only eat ramen forever.
Finding someone romantic/friends is difficult when you haven't fully AA quit drinking, but you're also disillusioned with hammered bar culture and driving drunk and don't want to do that anymore, and also would rather spend your money on not $10 Evan Williams and gingers all night when they don't even have the good Evan which only costs like $30 for a giant bottle.
That follow up is brutal and crucial.
Not her but I am a woman who moved across my country and made friends within a few months. It's social hobbies and active participation in subcultural events. I love bicycles, years back I got into volunteering at a bicycle repair cooperative, it made me some casual friends with whom I hung out working on bikes every other week. When I moved I found one to volunteer at again, though I haven't started yet. Similar social hobbies/volunteering are great. And for subculture stuff, its just that that's a really great way to find casual hang out events if you have a subculture you're interested in. I know goths all over have bar nights, as do plenty of other communities. It just serves as a really quick and easy "hey we have this in common" starter.
When in doubt, look up events happening in your area and check out any that interest you. Chat with folks when you're at them.