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Time to start small-time porn groups.
Ask your friends for their nudes.
Can I borrow some of your friends, all of mine are ugly.
No. An unhealthy body is not attractive. Reject complacency and obesity.
There a vast amount of space between unhealthy physique and the unrealistic beauty standards in media.
There is also a vast amount of space between a normal human body and the bodies that most Americans now have. That has nothing to do with the unrealistic beauty standards in media (which is also a thing)
Obesity is bad, and it annoys me when people start defending it as being beautiful. It's not, it will kill you in loads of unpleasant ways.
Get healthy, exercise, eat less, eat less sugars
Nobody in the thread above mentioned obesity. Nobody is saying you have to be attracted to obese people. Or disputing that it's unhealthy.
It remains true that there is a lot of space between this extreme and the extreme portrayed in media. Body weight is not the only standard, it's one of many.
I've met people far more beautiful than most you can see in mainstream media, let alone adult materials.
(And in case one bitch with ASPD is stalking me, no, I don't mean her ; that is, this is true for her too.)
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No one mentioned obesity except you.
Stop projecting your own self-hatred into others.
Stop bringing hatred into this discussion.
Obesity is a result of many things. It's mostly ~~hereditary~~ whatever you are born with, so the comment you are answering is right.
Just like other cases of "unhealthy". Just like with them, though, it's possible to find one's optimum in food and sports and sleep to feel better, and a person who feels better is usually more attractive.
But looking like models you can find in the interwebs is just not possible if you are not already like them.
Obesity is not hereditary. It is calories in, calories out. You dont have to look like a model, but you dont have to be fat.
People who feel better are healthy because they aren't obese.
It usually is.
Passing through your individual system. Mine, for example, very badly processes sugars. One teaspoon of sugar in tea means I stink like cat piss in half an hour after drinking that tea.
There are "fat" models, and also it's usually not your choice as I have previously said.
In case someone thinks I have a skin in the game - I'm as thin as a skeleton. But I have family members overweight and you really don't know what you're talking about, they are among the most healthy eating people I know and still their weight requires precision and discipline in their diet, both more than you likely ever achieved in life, sorry if rude.
Yeah, it's better to be healthy and rich than sick and poor, as they say to such statements where I live.
Show me where obesity is hereditary and not habit based?
Sugar is still calories and still comes out as burned energy and processing those calories does not matter because it is still burned as energy.
They may eat healthy but they eat a lot of healthy food which is still calories and they don't exercise which is how you burn calories.
Why are you taking personal attacks at me? Obesity is literally a self control issue. If you dont exercise, don't eat as much. If you eat a ton, you have burn those calories or they will store up. This is the just how this works.
I can't show it to you, it's a hard subject requiring a lot of data. But everybody having obese relatives know that they generally eat the same things and still get obese!
You don't know what you are talking about.
You don't know what you're talking about. Yep, exercise is very good, with different effects on different people still.
Because:
It's a different magnitude self control issue for different people. It's a self control issue for me - if I eat only burgers for a month, I might start getting obese (more likely just die), I just have to avoid that. It's a self control issue for my sister - if with her steamed vegetable diet she exercises a bit less, she gains weight. These are not comparable.
You are not saying anything valuable, that's just how this works. Health is complex.
Health is not complex. Eat right. Work out. Everything else falls into place.
Stop making excuses for bad habits that harm people. If you truly cared about your friends and family, you will tell them when they are unhealthy. If you encourage their behavior, you are an enabler and they will die sooner rather than later.
You don't seem to get what I'm saying. I'm not saying eating right and working out isn't necessary.
I'm saying that you not being obese and some other person being that is most likely not your achievement or their failure. It's just genetic predisposition.
I don't need excuses in this setting.
You sound like you don't believe in ADHD “just finish what you started, have some impulse control!“, or autism "read the room, don't be so literal and stop getting distracted by noise and light, just ignore it".
It night be plausible that most people can just avoid the first cigarette or the first spliff or the first anything, but no one can avoid food, and some people's biology, their hormonal balance, their brain chemistry, mental health, shit, just their metabolic rate can make them have a very, very different order of magnitude of problems with food.
So it's easy for you to have self control around food and balance your calorie intake with exercise? Great, good for you, but stop acting all morally superior for not having problems in your life.
Get lost with that judgemental "it's simple" shit and try to learn a bit of self control yourself over what kind of nasty judgementalism you're spouting online without thinking about other people.
Obesity costs america trillions of tax payer dollars in Healthcare and productivity. Obesity is burying hospitals.
There is no way you can compare adhd or autism to Obesity. Obesity is a choice. Medical conditions are not. People choose to eat more and exercise less. I have no sympathy for people that make everyday life harder on society with no accountability.
The fact that you think having one cheeseburger is the equivalent to Crack cocaine is telling.
All it takes is a 30 minute walk daily and to eat a salad once a day. But apparently that's too much for some people and now they have to harm society with medial bills, lack of productivity, special treatment, and inconvenience.
The most unhappy, nasty people I know are obese because in there mind they are victims and its everyone else's fault but their own. They take no ageny or accountability for their actions.
All that weight hurts your body so much and when you can't even leave the couch to open the door for the 24 wings and loaded fried with a gallon coke , maybe its time for self reflection.
Go ahead. Defend people's poor life choices that are harming themselves, their family, and their communities. Support their victim mentality and tell them there is nothing that can be done and that they and beautiful just as they are when they need another person with a stick to hold up their fat just so they can have sex.
Obese body positivity is a death sentence and a depression enabler. Every person should always work on themselves to be better and that includes keeping your body and mind well maintained, no matter what their size is.
Congratulations on ignoring literally everything I said and arguing with some fictitious person who is "body positive" about obesity or who doesn't think it's a problem. I mean, I've come across straw man arguments before, but this one takes the biscuit.
You think your hate and contempt can fix other people, but you're very, very, very wrong. I wouldn't be surprised if you shout at homeless people or at last rant about them for half an hour behind their backs.
Also congrats on completely, utterly and comprehensively falling the self control challenge I set you.
Turns out your self control in some things is at absolute zero.
Still really proud of yourself? I bet you really are, because you're not very introspective so far today.
Because I care and love my friends and family and I want them happy and healthy somehow im a hate monger?
I see you have no experience in actually helping people with depression, drug, and obesity problem. Patting them on the back and telling them they are awesome while their life is out of control is the worst thing you can do. But go ahead and do what makes you feel better instead of actually helping.
You invent so much of my side of the conversation. You argue with what you'd prefer I had said because it's so easy to disagree with and knock down. You've invented this whole nonsense viewpoint and life history for me just so you can come across as more sensible. But it's insane because it has almost nothing to do with what I said and everything to do with your prejudices and your inability to have some self control over your judgementalism and your condemnatory impulses.
You've gotta be rightwing.
Bad people who make bad choices deserve all the bad things that come their way and some more flung at them by you just to show them how wrong they are? That's where you're coming from here.
Now you are assuming my political beliefs?! Good lord.
Self worth and accountability cut across all political spectrums.
You're probably right wing for keeping people fat and stupid so they cant march and fight back.
That just makes the session last longer