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Mine varies from like 4 to -5, with random flucturations into -7 to -8. I'd say it averages out at like -1.

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[โ€“] firipu@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The 6 months a year dad was home (sailor) somewhere between a - 5 and a 2. The 6 other a solid 8+ (not because of being spoiled, but just general happiness and joy)

He never hit us, but he verbally abused my mom and sister and was/is just in general a miserable cunt that ruins other people's days. I'm glad he only retired when my siblings and I were basically out of the house for good.

Tried to get my mom to leave him when we all had the finances to support her, but she stayed with him. Living basically 90% separate lives in the same house. Only hate and despise in that house left.

[โ€“] dingus@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Wow...similar experience growing up I guess. My dad was very verbally abusive to my mom and a bit to my older sibling. Some physical abuse in private too I guess. The rest of us siblings didn't really get that from him.

As a kid I would always ask my mom why she didn't leave my dad. Thankfully she did eventually in my case. Been over 10 years since she left and I think has improved her life remarkably. Older sibling has also gone no contact with my dad so that's good there too.

I'm sorry your parents are still together like that.