Ask Lemmy
A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions
Rules: (interactive)
1) Be nice and; have fun
Doxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them
2) All posts must end with a '?'
This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?
3) No spam
Please do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.
4) NSFW is okay, within reason
Just remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com.
NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].
5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions.
If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.
6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world or !askusa@discuss.online
Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.
Partnered Communities:
Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu
view the rest of the comments
The F word that means "a bundle of sticks" used almost exclusively as a homophobic slur.
With some specific exceptions, for me. If you are one, and you aren't using it against others, it's fine. Like storytelling and describing a conversation, or just even being playful about it. Maybe being at a store with some friends looking at clothes or something, describing yourself and how something looks perhaps? Totally fine in my book. That's our term, we should be able to reclaim it for ourselves.
But someone else who I don't know and can't immediately determine the meaning/context that uses it? Bitch you about to die.
I don't know. I think reclaiming slurs can be a good thing, (queer, for example), but that one is inherently violent and I always feel uncomfortable when I hear it. Like, there's a reason you didn't write it out in your comment.
Fair. I didn't type it since I don't want to be that guy like 'you mean [word]'. It's very context sensitive yeah, but I think it's okay in the right moment.
that's gay, it obviously means cigarettes
Off-topic:
I'm always tempted to write it out. The word is in everybody's mind while we read the text. It gets so powerful if people decide to talk around it. But if the context is not hurtful, it's just a word. Nothing happens. It becomes an insult if the mind of the one who says it or the one who reads it decides to make it one.
Plus the assholes who use it as a slur will say it anyway. We're not achieving anything by erasing it from our bubble.
Well, that's what I think about it. :)
It’s unfortunate - I like the concept of people talking about bundles of sticks, or slang for cigarettes. But the negative usage so dwarfs those cases that they’re really no longer legitimate
I do agree. That word is harsh to see, to hear. I have never liked it. Even between gays, I don't use it at all.