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Do you want kids? Why or why not? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by Anne_Marie@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I’ll start. I’m a 37-year-old woman, and I’ve always been indifferent about having children. I love peace and quiet, but at the same time, I wouldn’t mind having kids if my partner really wanted them.

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now and married for 11. I’m his second (and final) wife. He has three kids with his first wife. She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children. That solidified my decision not to have kids.

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[–] Alsjemenou@lemy.nl 1 points 19 hours ago

45m I knew from a very early age that i never wanted to be a father. I have always been very upfront about it with my partners and it has ended one relationship. She found out that she did grew, after two years of being in a relationship, to have a child wish. And I could have at that time become a dad, and im sure i would be great at it, but im very happy that never happened. I got my vasectomy soon after that, i was around 30. Just to make sure there were never any accidents.

For the question of why... I don't know. I've tried to analyse it but i can't give a deeper reason than feeling a deep aversion. I have a good relation with my parents, had a decent childhood and i love my nephews dearly. I like children and i don't mind being around them. I don't particularly care for anti child propaganda either.

My partner and i are living a child free life. She also has zero interest in having children of our own.