throwawaysalami

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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by throwawaysalami@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
 

I am quite good at talking to people. But I want to step up my flirting game. So what are some relatively "safe" ways to flirt?

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I mean, I'll take what I can get (short term, long term). As I said I have never had any sort of relationship to speak of so I wouldn't really know. But casual sex would be best for me as things are now.

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sorta, I don't really care that much for the relationship part. I mean, if I like the girl and she wants to make it official I'll play ball, ya know.

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

but it’s a place to start building a framework for understanding.

It sure is! Thank you, this is honestly very helpful and intuitive! They way I got confused by the last comment was because I was like: "But I'm already talking friendly with them, that's like the one thing I'm good at."

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children)

but then what is your actual challenge here?

I don't know, that's a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 8 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Okay, clearly you're at the end of your rope here. And I thank you for sticking around for as long as you could.

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago (8 children)

What about if you don't want anything too serious?

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 7 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

Flirting is just friendly chatting.

Wait, so how is that different with friends??

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 8 points 2 weeks ago (8 children)

Do you have to be friends first before you flirt? (I feel like a damn toddler or alien, asking these questions. 😅)

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 8 points 2 weeks ago (10 children)

Ask out your crushes instead of trying to force a crush on someone you’re not attracted to.

So you just, ask them out? Do you need to behave any differently as you would with a friend?

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (12 children)

Have you ever experienced sexual attraction?

Yeah, like a ton actually. Sorry I forgot to mention I do in fact develop feelings for people.

Edit: I added it to the description now

[–] throwawaysalami@lemm.ee 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Okay I probably should've mentioned this. I most certainly do and can develop feelings for people but I just don't know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.

Edit: Okay it's edited into the description now.

 

I am a social guy, talking to people comes quite natural to me. Therefore I make friends easily. I have had a ton of crushes and was also in love for a couple of times. However I have never had any relationship to speak of (I'm 25, btw), and I feel like I'm missing out on something.

When it comes to relationships I honestly don't know how people do it. I don't know what makes someone "like" someone else, safe for their appearance. Or how someone "starts" to see another as a romantic partner rather than platonic. I feel like I only know how to serve friendship. So how do people develop feelings for someone?

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