drbollocks

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would getting back with an ex be a bad idea? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i mean, i have to strain to remember the name of the guy who harassed me, so i probably won’t remember his name either after a decade :)

thanks so much

would getting back with an ex be a bad idea? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

ah, he said “let’s be friends” but he wanted to get back together in the future and i was willing to do that, but obviously not now.

would getting back with an ex be a bad idea? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
would getting back with an ex be a bad idea? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago (6 children)

thanks ❤️ ig cuz it’s so recent and i still harbor some old feelings, i feel like he can change

would getting back with an ex be a bad idea? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago (8 children)

i also notice that although he’s bi, he’d only talk about hot men (especially fictional), wouldn’t mention me to other people, and would talk to me about his crushes as if we were just good friends. he would also try to make moves with some of them, presumably not telling them about me

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would getting back with an ex be a bad idea? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

my ex-boyfriend sam (19m) of a few years has been my longest relationship (as i’m still young). he ghosted me and i started to lose feelings for him. however, i still had hope.

he also “forgot” about me when he would give gifts to other people, wouldn’t mention me under “people he appreciates” but would mention everyone else, and wouldn’t even tell people abt me.

due to all this, i started to question actually being a lesbian who was only into guys because of comphet.

however, last night, when he finally saw my messages (he doesn’t use social media a lot), he apologized and said he should’ve done something other than ghost his gf. he agreed that we should break up, and said he was being this way due to mental health problems, and that if we got back together, he’d be a better bf.

he explained he still had feelings for me and would love to still be friends.

that’s when i realized that i had genuine feelings for him that were still there, not just comphet. i always loved him and felt sad when it seemed he didn’t love me the same way.

i understand he’s not ready for a relationship rn, and i think he should take his time. i also am not quite ready due to this being so recent and the fact that we haven’t done actual couple stuff in a while.

but after a while, when he gets better, hopefully we’ll still have feelings and both be good partners (better than we were then). after all, even if the not including me thing isn’t an excuse, the ghosting was due to poor mental health which he can’t control.

so i guess i’d also be biromantic with a preference for women.

i hope we can make this work >w<

uhh… my ex girlfriend and long-time friend is now cishet, very christian, and makes those “i identify as” jokes regarding trans people. would it end up bad for me if i continued to be her friend? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

the reason was that she wanted to stay friends after losing interest in me and she liked another girl, so idk

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uhh… my ex girlfriend and long-time friend is now cishet, very christian, and makes those “i identify as” jokes regarding trans people. would it end up bad for me if i continued to be her friend? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

besides all that, she has an odd sense of humor but is really nice. not only this, but has been my friend since middle school, and i dated her in sixth grade. she has always been christian, but she’s practicing it more and feels like she has to “repent for her sins” and whatever.

she used to be a lesbian and then genderfluid but now she’s cishet and idk if she’ll understand what i’m going through, i also hope she didn’t decide this due to christianity.

and the gender identity and pronouns jokes feel weird to me as an enby and a lesbian 😓

will this end up actually bad for me like those superevangelicals?

I’m probably no longer center-left. If you could decide from my thinking, what political affiliation should I research to see if it fits me? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago

genuine question. how are you not a victim of homophobia if you dated a girl in high school and are lgbt? and if no one ever has judged you for that, how do you not feel empathetic to other lgbt people who have?

I’m probably no longer center-left. If you could decide from my thinking, what political affiliation should I research to see if it fits me? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

you are probably not center-left. you, to me, sound like either apolitical or one of the lgbt republicans who are “one of the good ones”.

you’re apparently bi/a lesbian too but you don’t hang out with lesbians because you can’t relate to them (you like men)??

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why do some straight people deny their loved ones’ homosexuality? (keyword: SOME) (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
 

some straight guy i was friends with was obsessed with me. he only cared if i liked men and had a bf for some reason, and would ignore that i liked women. he would act like i was straight and that if i dated women, that just meant i was single and obviously interested in him.