In the US? I'd say it's pretty safe to be a little gender nonconforming unless you're really out in the sticks. If you were properly nonbinary I would be a little more careful, but still most people will live and let live.
As a trans person, we have a lot more to fear from the federal government than from our neighbors, at least in ~80% of the country.
I don't want to be political, but the government decided that me existing should be illegal. So now me posting about fashion or makeup or whatever is automatically political now.