**my other post was just removed. censoring isn’t good for the movement either.
So EVERYONE can see what was said directly by fungi himself.
“I was laying in bed, I don't remember if I was even clothed or not. We were in bed, at night. She said my hand was on my genitals. That's it. But that made her uncomfortable - and she wanted to talk about it - my mistake at that point was talking about the wrong phone call, when I knew for sure I was just playing with my pants because my hands are always fidgeting.
I even remember her saying at the beginning that it might not even be anything but she wanted to talk about it.
I've realized from that (and I have done this in the past as well) that I can get fixated on the wrong thing and the conversation becomes about the wrong thing at that point. Rather than discussing the actual thing that she wanted to discuss.
Even here, for all I know I was just scratching myself. I have no idea. We never got to that. But now I'm a predator? Really? No... I'm not playing the victim either. It was a dumb situation that destroyed an important relationship in my life.
I have no idea what it was I was even doing because we never got to even talk about whatever it was exactly that I did. There's no big conspiracy there. There's a broken relationship over both of our issues with communication when it's a tense conversation.
This then turned into things like me opening doors for her, which makes her feel like she's helpless. I've opened doors my whole life for others. I never intended for that to make her feel bad or helpless in any way whatsoever. I did it out of respect and because that's what I've always done.
But my intentions did not matter to her, and I accept that's her right.
My struggle in the conversation then became with how to create rules in my head for when it's ok, and when it's not ok. She said as long as it's not performative bullshit it's fine. I looked up what would constitute performative actions, and that became even more confusing. These are the things we ended up arguing over.
There were a dozen such things that started piling onto the conversation. It was two neuro divergent people having their first ever argument and we had no guidelines in place for how to communicate when things are tense.
That's all. So I should hand over the subreddit to a PAC and a Non Profit because of that?”
We want transparency as to what happened regarding the sexually inappropriate incident that happened with fungi that he admitted to in his since deleted comments. No one can post on the 50501 main subreddit. This is such a mess.
Originally Posted By u/pawrescue At 2025-04-24 10:40:18 PM | Source
