I think it's more exhausting to be around a narcissist.
The narcissists themselves seem to feed off of the behavior.
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Oh, absolutely. Im just sayin', I marvel at the notion that that shit actually energizes/truly nourishes them and makes them feel at ease
I think it's just part of their personality so that's just how they operate, they aren't seeing it as extra work. Extra work for them is when people are making them do things they don't want to do
why do you think they're so grumpy all the time?
All of the narcissist people I've known were secretly internally miserable.
This is just it. Narcissists are miserably self-loathing, and they distract from tackling with it by focusing on others. The longer they can keep scapegoating and projecting and crazymaking, the longer they don't have to think about themselves or accept that they have a problem.
All of the narcissist people I've known were secretly internally miserable.
And they blame that misery on everyone other then the face in the mirror.
What were the indicia of that you picked up on or knew about behind the scenes?
Answering from my own experiences, a lot of people who showed narcissistic traits tended to be very manipulative.
They always wanted something from everyone around them. Whatever anyone did for them, it was never enough. Never being enough seems to creep into other parts of a narcissistic person's life. Never enough attention or never enough objects/wealth. Never satisfied with what they currently have and always wanting more but more is never enough. There seems to be a constant need to exploit everyone and everything for more.
When I compare that behaviour to people who are content and able to live in the moment, it becomes very easy for me to see who feels genuine happiness and who doesn't.
People are complex and manipulation isn't always going to be a thing that a narcissistic person does but damn it is common. Too common.
This is like asking if someone is tired of their OCD, or their BPD. People with actual mental health issues aren't choosing their behavior for the day like a coat, it's something they struggle with constantly.
It is and it isnt. There has to be people with technical NPD who found ways to be less "them"
Like how BPD have Dialectical Behaviour Therapy to help them tone things down and improve social functioning
Narcissist here. Nope. Not exhausting.
I think perhaps you've met some unhappy people. Not all people are unhappy.
Being self-centered doesn't make you unhappy. It's a navigable condition just like any other mood or perspective. Depends on what you make of it.