Need to get them to do something fun away from home.
this post was submitted on 22 Oct 2025
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The road to hell is paved with good intention.
You have to understand your own limitations.
- They are 25 years old.
- They live with their mom.
- They never had a job.
- They only play games.
- and you don’t even live in the same town as them.
Someone, probably their mother is enabling this.
There is absolutely nothing you can do for either of these people. What you have to do is recognize that one day they will be at your door begging for support.
Get as far away from them as you can. You have no bargaining power here. Hey stop doing that thing that is so easy and come do this really shitty hard thing … because…
Listen to me man, get the fuck away from them.
Finally like others have said, you are judging them and rightfully so.
These dudes are losers. Find better friends.
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I tried everything for a couple of friends. similar stories. all I did was damage the friendship irrecoverably.
cut ties with them. dead weight drags you down.
besides, pretty presumptuous of you to think of them as being less than you and in need of you help.
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I have a couple friends like this. Live with their moms, over 25, never had a job or anything. Only plays games. I feel so bad for them because they don't think they are smart but they definitely are, they just dont spend their time wisely.
If you hadn't stated they were over 25 I would have assumed they were children. Because they sound like children. Someone has enabled this behaviour so that they can live like a child. So maybe taking these enabling factors away is what you can do to help. I don't pretend that's easy.