A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
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I think the issue is people getting hung up on the gender identity, not the name. I have known lots of people who go by preferred names, whether chosen themselves or given to them by friends as nicknames. Hell, there are a few people I knew for years only by their preferred name/nickname without realizing it wasn't their given name.
And stage names make a lot of sense from a practical standpoint. Being famous by your given name can make it hard to separate professional life from personal life.
Don't know if it's the case in her situation, but there's also the thing with stage names where Guild rules require names to be unique. Like Michael J. Fox's middle name is actually Andrew. There was already a Michael Fox on the books so couldn't use that, Andrew or Andy Fox didn't feel right, and Michael A. Fox felt presumptuous (Michael, a fox. Fox having recently come into play as a synonym for attractive) or Canadian (Michael Eh? Fox)
This is why in The Simpson you will see David S. Cohen and in Futurama he is David X. Cohen. I think in a Futurama commentary he told about confusion in a guild or royalty payments that made him change how he was credited.
100% agree. If whoopi goldberg had chose their name for gender purposes, i could see them getting hate and being told it's a stupid reason etc.
JD Vance isn't a real name, and that's cool. Apparently.
Ted Cruz is, afaik, not using a pseudonym, but he is a literal Oogie Boogie (see; a writhing mass of bugs wrapped in a pseudo-skin) and nobody seems to have a problem with that either
Edit: I scrolled down and am now aware the Ted is not his name. Shoulda known an boogie boogie would use a pseudonym. SMH my whole head rn
Rafael Edward Cruz, you mean?
Is that the Canadian born guy?
Hey, you leave us out of it. You touched him last; he's yours now.
Not to defend Ted Cruz, but I have a friend named Ted, short for Edward. It's not unheard of.
JD Vance sounds like one of those kids that jumps out of tall grass to challenge you to a Pokémon battle.
I feel silly now for not realizing that was a stage name.
I straight up thought her actual name was "Whoopi".
About every actor or actress you've ever heard of is using a stage name. I forget the rules, but the name has to be unique, never used before. Acting guild thing? I forget.
Not really.
The people who have an issue with that, don't have an issue with Rafael Cruz making up a white name.
They just don't like people transitioning.
You're implying transphobia is a common view.
The people who have an issue with that, don’t have an issue with Rafael Cruz making up a white name.
Nobody is mad at Ted for changing his name. Folks are mad at him for pulling the rope up now that his family is here "legally", then trying to white wash his identity so you don't question him on it.
You’re implying transphobia is a common view.
It absolutely is. And it used to be a lot worse. Took a lot of people coming out at risk of their lives and livelihoods before we reached even this level of support for transgender civil rights.
You’re implying transphobia is a common view.
It's not?
Of course not...
https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2024-06-06/lgbtq-trans-people-american-support-poll
I think you might be confusing our political system for a democratic one...
A minority of the populace voted for what's happening these days. The majority of people just don't give a shit, they're fine with people living how they want.
It's an important distinction, because the bigots always want the targeted minority to view all of the majority as an enemy.
If battle lines are just "bigots" vs "non bigots" then the bigots lose every fucking time. That's why they always try to make it "majority" vs "minority", dont let them do that. And definitely don't help them do that with posts like OPs and comments like yours
Don't get outsmarted by stupid fucking bigots. A lot depends on it now.
Thirty-one percent of U.S. adults disapprove of transgender and nonbinary adults living their lives as they wish
That sure doesn’t sound like a niche thing
I have an issue with Raphael Cruz making up a white name.
If you know anyone who is anti trans but goes by a nickname, start calling them by their given name. Doug, you're Douglas. Alex, you're Alexander or Alexis or whatever. Bill: William. Ted: Rafael (might only apply to one Senator).
...and if they go by their full name, Robert, add some extra on,Roberts, or take some off, Ro. Mispronounce their name badly, Lobert. Say their name in another language that they don't like, Roberto.
It's not cool to fuck with people's names. You should be called what you want to be called. Unless they won't stop doing it to other people in bad taste. Then fuck them, at least until they finally get it.
this dint start until conservatives,right wing groups started pushing the anti-trans narrative. which was pretty recent, like within 5-10years. nobody gave a poop about it til trumps 1st term. Now everyone is either afraid, or freaks out over names that should be ONE sex or the other, or gendered, plus this also applies to characther names in movies and shows. there was one trek show that made it forced and wierd, like that is making statement.
I think having a cute stage name is something people accept after you're famous.
I'm gonna come in with maybe an unpopular hot take. I have no problems people being trans or choosing a name that suits your preferred gender, but--perhaps because of the repression earlier in life--it seems there is often an... aggressively creative search for names?
I know about 8 MtF people (0 FtM for some reason?), and they are not picking mainstream names like Mary, Samantha, or Norah for example. Eris, Athena, Cybelle, Malice, and Laika are 5 of the 8 names chosen. It's not a problem, you pick it and I will use it, but it IS jarring. I'm not making excuses for transphobia because that's stupid, but it is strange to me to ostensibly want to blend in with everybody else, but then choose a name that obviously marks you out? It's like the line between choosing a name for your heroine DND character and for yourself is suddenly completely erased and it's absolutely your right, but as an outsider it's honestly kinda weird.
I support a parents right to pick names for their kids, but aeslyn and breeleigh and brandaeden are weird names. Same for people who pick their own names regardless of gender identity. If you pick a name that is kinda weird... well it's kinda weird.
Coming up with a stage name is usually something that agents will tell their clients to do if their name sounds "too ethnic". Happens when they are auditioning for roles, not when they get famous.
Random fact I heard the other day: Leonardo DiCaprio almost sent out headshots with a stage name at the advice of his agent, but his dad talked him out of it and told him to be proud of his name. I forget what they told him his stage name should be, but it was way more generic and forgettable than his real name.
They don't seem to mind that JD Vance has had a bunch of different names.
This one is a hard one, as a cis-gender male, I don't go by my real name. If someone calls me by my birth name I wouldn't even know they were referring to me.
I think its more to do with gender rather than names, that and the will to be cruel, of course.
Yeah, I go by my middle name and nobody thinks it's weird.
The only people that call me by my middle name are my... estranged family. So its sort of an insult in a way. Weird how that works out.
Not a gender-identity thing, but I met my best friend when I was 12. We didnt have any classes together so I never heard his name called out in the register.
Wasn't until we were having a drink at 18 that I realised I didnt actually know his real name.
Change your name to make yourself more palatable to a wider audience? Good.
Change your name to make yourself more palatable for yourself? Bad, apparently.
I recently learned that Charlie Sheen's birth name is Carlos Irwin Estévez.
Yep, he adopted the stage name of his father, Martin Sheen (Ramón Gerard Antonio Estévez).
Everyone always forgets the brother who kept his name, Emilio Estevez.
Actors and actresses have to register their name with a guild and sometimes change it because it is too close to another previous actor's name or they don't want to show their nepo roots or whatever reason.
So to just skip that problem they make up a registered stage name. Not that it lends any more authenticity but rather there is a structural professional reason that they do that.
And I have no problem with people using any name as long as they don't mock me for needing help spelling it.
chooses a name
Whoopi
Does it ever make you think that when her parents were having sex that one fateful night, they would later be able to look back upon it and say that they were making Whoopi?
I've never encountered or noticed this problem that you mention.
I can't even see an issue with choosing a name that suits their gender, whatever that may be..
Is this really such a big deal irl?
Is this really such a big deal irl?
It is to the fascists.
All businesses choose a fake name to suit their identity. All business managers choose job titles to suit their identity.
Those who have a problem with transgender people are arrogant egotistical full-of-themselves narcicists who see others as lower class animals that exist only to be managed.
The only people that have a problem with people changing gender is religious people that think that a fictional god assigned them a gender at birth, because their god knows and controls everything, so can never, ever, ever, ever be wrong about anything. Ever. Like a person's gender. So they hate everyone that questions their fictional hate book. Because it takes them a lot of work to live in that weird, fictional religious reality they want to so badly.
Be whatever gender you want to be. I'll call you whatever you want, but at least stick to it for a bit.
