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Most of the time it's about owls or art cause that's what I tend to reply to.

No, because I use Boost and I do not let it check notis. I revisit comments that I would like to have a conversation around and I look for meaningful responses. I really don't care what the average person says as most of the time it's the player piano music in their head, or some logical fallacy.

No, it means I said something impactful enough for someone to respond. Even if they disagree with me it opens the door for a discussion. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm about to learn something, maybe I'll be able to explain something to someone else, maybe I'll get to argue with a moron, so many possibilities in those notifications.

No. It means I made the imaginary internet points number that no one cares for go up.

Yeah, I sometimes get that feeling "uh oh, what did I do?"

I just press mark all as read

The community

Must

Grow

its usually cause the communist gang or the linux gang has discovered my opinion. no need for alarm.

I feel I need a few weeks to respond when I notice people dog piling me. It’s not common, but I don’t want to deal with all that negativity out there gate with people when I’m just looking to have a conversation.

Some people are looking to jump on you the second you even broach some topics which can be a bit frustrating.

Thankfully most of Lemmy has been so friendly, it’s other places that actually have gotten to me more.

Your name is chaosCruiser. Fucking embrace the chaos!

No, because I don’t give a shit if people don’t like what I have to say and decide to be petulant about it.

Occasionally. Then I tell myself that screwing up on the internet, and especially Lemmy is basically, “Oh no! Anyway…” Most people wasn’t remember your username 5 minutes after they rage at you, if they ever read it to begin with. And no one knows who you are in real life of course. That said, I do still feel like an idiot when someone takes issue with something I said that I wasn’t necessarily certain was the right thing to say, or that agreed with popular sentiment. It doesn’t always work for making my monkey brain feel better, but it usually works at least somewhat.

At worst it's bunch of strangers on the other side of the world saying mean things to a person they know nothing about. I might lose a small part of the little faith I have left in humanity but I take none of it personally.

I've never experienced that. I can't imagine it would worry me either way though. The internet isn't real life. It literally doesn't matter. I'd have as much concern as if I saw unread notifications in a video game.

Nope. I just go in periodically and click the button to mark all as read. The button doesn't actually verify that I've read them, basically just takes my word for it and then makes the number go away ... kind of in the Lemmy way where it might go away for a second, come back a minute later, go away again for awhile, then come back again for a bit, and then finally truly go away long term, permanently.

Joking aside, I get way too much hostility here on Lemmy for what amounts to making stupid boomer-style jokes and sharing personal anecdotes, so I don't even bother reading replies in my inbox anymore. I find my time on Lemmy is much more cathartic and enjoyable this way. Sadly, that does mean I probably miss out on some discussions or responses to questions I've asked, but at least I don't generally ever even see the nastiness and negativity towards me when I'm just here for a mostly light-hearted break from reality. And that works for me. After all, haters gonna hate, don't mean I gotta participate.

I do still freak out thinking i've been banned. Then i remember this isn't reddit and lemmy appreciates free speech. Then i look at the notifications and most of them are just people adding on to my comment and a good bit of upvotes.

It's nice to be in a place full of open minded people who are nerdy. Just where i want to be.

Never look at my inbox. Not once.