Ask Lemmy

Is inviting strangers an option, someone who is more into your (version of the) activity?

Everything sounds normal, although maybe a little sad, about all of that. In fact, it sounds like a great plan! Again, sad to do alone, but not necessarily. And you may even find those new friends doing exactly the things you like to do. Good luck to you, and enjoy your time.

Thanks, this story inspired me to pay more attention to that for today’s plans.

Originally I agreed to overly complex logistics for a family activity because I know my ex doesn’t like to drive. But she agreed to simpler logistics that would save an hour on the schedule and save everyone else a lot of driving at the expense of her driving. This will be so much more enjoyable spending a little more time with my kid and not be in a rush to get everything done.

the plans always get changed

Change is normal. What's your problem with change?

but I’m bored/miserable

Maybe stop doing that, because the usual outcome is that nobody enjoys being with the miserable one.

Now, I’d really like to choose friends who genuinely align with what I enjoy.

Everybody must do what you say?

What do you think what the others like when being with you?

then we don’t talk for 6–12 months until someone breaks the silence.

This isn't even close to friendship.

One definition of a friend is: a person I enjoy spending time with.

If there's someone sulking, you go after half an hour and talk it out. Never wait for another day.

If you really like sex they can both be the same thing.

Not even joking. My time spent pursuing polyamory was one of the most fulfilling and socially active times in my life.

But it required a Herculean amount of effort and there were times I though my dick my fall off.