Ask Lemmy

Long hair.

Shorter is better.

I like how the standard has fractured and there isn't really a standard now, but I do also kind of like the obviously fake bodies being the standard because an insistence on natural beauty is more oppressive than the idea of beauty as something you do, an art or achievement, even a purchase.

If beauty like that is something you choose, I am free to choose it or not. If it's just by luck of birth, that sucks so bad. When I was a gawky tall stick insect of a teenager and the only girls considered pretty were the short and stacked, there was no way to meet that standard.

Later the tide shifted but as I didn't grow up feeling my body could ever be mainstream sexy, I didn't get attached to that - I do have hangups but they are my own. I just try to stay in shape, have good hair, take care of my skin and let the rest be.

But I think my unpopular opinion is beauty as something you do - makeup, style, fitness, is more democratic than insistence on symmetry of features or a particular height or build, the idea of "natural beauty" is worse. Beauty should be a choice, a hobby, a project, do or not.

In terms of what I do not currently understand, it's the moustaches. Young men with weedy little moustaches, straight men with moustaches that scream gay to me, the unopposed highway patrol/1980s gay man moustache I can't wait for that trend to pass.

I dislike most artificial "enhancements" to boost your attractiveness.

Things like fake lashes, hair extensions, fake nails, breast implants, BBLs, lip injections, botox, and so on. This also extends for me to things like overly excessive tattoos, piercing, and makeup.

I personally like people who look and feel real. I don't want to date a mannequin. It's a okay to have flaws, nobody is perfect. Your flaws are a part of your charm.

I don't like big boobs almost ever.

Most of them, but by far makeup.

If someone enjoys it and wants to, I don't judge.

But I seriously never saw a person who looks better with makeup. Even light makeup ( which can look good) still looks worse than just natural.

Also there is this vicious cycle where heavy makeup users have worse skin and more pimples so they feel pressure to but heavier makeup, which in turn worsens the skin condition.

People, be happy, love yourself, you are pretty for who you are.

I've never dated a woman wearing false nails. The same with botox.

Also, I'm not seduced by make-up. Contrary to false nails, I don't mind it, I find it useless. I like to look at actual people, and I may even feel attracted to some of them. I'm not interested as much in looking at the fantasized image people may have of themselves.

I'm also not obsessed with a person looking young, meaning I don't mind grey hair and wrinkles. Why would I? I do wear my own wrinkles with no worries, alongside those (short) grey hair I would have on top of my own big head if I was not completely bald.

Not considering the body itself, there is a 'sexy' thing that always left me wondering what was so hot about them: high heels.

I mean, I get it they help shape the legs. But they're also quite obviously less stable to walk with and they seem rather uncomfortable to wear for hours. I would tend to favor the company of a woman able to go out for a long walk with me, be it in nature somewhere or to visit some art gallery or museum in town.

I can't think of a single beauty standard I do like. Everyone is beautiful in some way. Even the people who are regarded as ugly by the majority.

Big boobs.