this post was submitted on 06 Jun 2025
60 points (88.5% liked)

Showerthoughts

35958 readers
744 users here now

A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:

Rules

  1. All posts must be showerthoughts
  2. The entire showerthought must be in the title
  3. No politics
    • If your topic is in a grey area, please phrase it to emphasize the fascinating aspects, not the dramatic aspects. You can do this by avoiding overly politicized terms such as "capitalism" and "communism". If you must make comparisons, you can say something is different without saying something is better/worse.
    • A good place for politics is c/politicaldiscussion
  4. Posts must be original/unique
  5. Adhere to Lemmy's Code of Conduct and the TOS

If you made it this far, showerthoughts is accepting new mods. This community is generally tame so its not a lot of work, but having a few more mods would help reports get addressed a little sooner.

Whats it like to be a mod? Reports just show up as messages in your Lemmy inbox, and if a different mod has already addressed the report, the message goes away and you never worry about it.

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
vatlark@lemmy.world
forkball@lemmy.world
Thekingoflorda@lemmy.world
SuperEars@lemmy.world
60
Stirring up conflict for the sake of conflict, kills other people's interest in problem solving. (programming.dev)
submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by danhab99@programming.dev to c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world
8 comments fedilink hide all child comments
 

I came here to vent; I'm sick of being told that I'm non-confrontational and I avoid confrontation, I don't. I avoid confrontation with you because you need to be correct so I'd rather not waste time by arguing with you and instead just find a way to solve the problem in which you're correct and the problem is solved. And it's objectively wrong to say about me that I avoid confrontation because I do have regular confrontation with specific people who do end it.

But if you think conflict builds character you're not going to get any of that character building with me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ sorry nobody owes it you which means no one owes you a confrontation which means I'm not avoiding confrontation.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Were they in their twenties? I've run across lots of folks in their 20s that were like that. I admit I did some of that myself in my late teens and early twenties. Its certainly possible to grow out of that, and cutting them out of your lift is the right thing to do. I know I didn't have the words or reasons why I was doing that at the time, but with years of life experience I can now verbalize it. Feel free to give them some parting words as to why you're doing it too. If they gain a bit of maturity and self awareness they can make a change and be someone worth being around.

However, its not your job to fix them or even put up with them. You can leave them with their own problems.

[–] El_Scapacabra@piefed.social 3 points 1 month ago

Late twenties and early thirties in this case. I told him on multiple occasions that what he was doing wasn't ok and why. Unfortunately he doggedly refused to introspect and instead put the responsibility for his problems on everyone but himself. (Usually in the form of toddler tantrums, it was fucking exhausting.)

You're absolutely right by the way, sometimes people are like this due to immaturity and they're open to correcting their behaviour with honest feedback and introspection. Unfortunately this wasn't one of those cases, so I ended up cutting ties.

I have a feeling OP experienced something similar. They just end up not engaging with people like this entirely. And honestly, good for them.