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You don't have to live up to any kind of ridiculous standard, but you have to embrace all of the unpleasant tasks that come with inviting people to your space.
The biggest one is that you can't have people leaving filthy and covered in cat hair.
I know you have a cat, but you have to figure out how to balance your cat ownership and your desire or intention to host people in your home.
Clean the cat hair. Vacuum the furniture. Think about how you would feel if you had a cat allergy and had to go to somebody's home and drag all that filth home with you.
Don't get me wrong, I like cats, but let's be real.
I get that. What is difficult for me is that I am the person in my family living closest to everyone. Plus, my parents, who are getting older, don't want to host anymore. I therefore became the de facto host without wanting to be one. But my family have such a high standard of cleaning that I find it difficult to have them over. For example, yesterday, they teased me about the fact that my bedside table was messy, in my own bedroom. I'm tired.
I refuse to accept that you're looking for any answer.
I think validation is what you're seeking and we can't give that to you.
I think it comes down to one of two things, reimagine your relationship with your family, or clean your place.
? I don't understand your comment, but thanks anyway.