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[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That lady is 1 person, there's no indication that she's representative of the USA population as a whole. To see 1 person and then assume that everyone else in her country must be like her, is a very stupid generalization. Your opinion is based on prejudice, not reason. So far you've shown a tendency for victim blaming, a lack of empathy towards individuals that are left behind & prejudice towards all US Americans. Should I assume from that that all Poles lack empathy, and are full of prejudices about other people? Of course not, because you're only 1 person and therefore too small a sample size to make a sweeping generalization like that.

[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Yeah, I'm also sexist and racist because I don't cite data all the time.

That 1 lady is just an example. We're commenting below an article about overly processed food, we keep hearing about food deserts and low food quality in US (lot's of this stuff can't be even exported to Europe). You want some data? Here: https://www.gallup.com/analytics/512897/global-cooking-research.aspx

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EU is were people cook the most. US ranks somewhere in the middle. US is also the dominant market for frozen and microwave ready meals. No idea why would you assume I'm basing my opinions on a case of a single lady. It's just weird. I'm not going to back up everyone comment with full bibliography. You can just assume most people know more then they have time to write down in a single comment.

[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What this data also tells you is there is not a single country where 100% of people know how to cook, there will be people like that lady in every country. Some countries will have more as a percentage of the population, others less. Even Poland will have some. Those people deserve empathy, not scorn.

What this data also shows is that going out to eat is unlikely to be the reason for not being able to cook. People in western Europe and especially Spain/Portugal/Italy go out to eat very regularly, often daily, yet these countries rank higher on the cooking map than eastern Europe where people eat out less. That part of your reasoning, is again based on prejudice.

Prejudice, lack of empathy, scorn, I realize that these are negative terms and that you will find them offensive when applied to you, but ... they are the correct terms. Your reasoning is based on prejudice. Your attitude towards that woman was scornful. You show a lack of empathy with people who are not like you.

[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ok, I get it. I though we're trying to discuss a greater point but you're just hung up on that anonymous lady I was mean to. You're right, I shouldn't have single her out like that and use her as an example. I'm sure she's a great person, everyone actually loves her cooking and her inability to make proper cookies doesn't diminish her value as a human being in any way. In the future I will be more careful about mentioning random people in my comments. I was trying to make a point about quality of food and ability to cook in US which I believe is backed by lots of better data than a single lady and her cookies.

Cookie lady, if you're reading this: I'm sorry. It's not your fault you don't know how to make cookies and shouldn't have judged you like this. If you ever want to learn how to bake let me know and we will arrange some lessons.

[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, there's that scorn again that I was talking about. Your derision and scorn towards those that are less able than you demonstrate a lack of empathy and an absence of sympathy. Your "lots of data" is just your prejudices, you're making sweeping generalizations, not based on knowledge or understanding, but largely based on your preconceived ignorant opinions.

That lady isn't perfect, but as we can see, neither are you. Nor am I obviously. Cut people some slack, grow some empathy.

[–] ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I'm agreeing with you while at the same time laughing at the idea of defending some random lady mentioned in a comment. Yes, I judged her cookie making abilities without knowing her full background. I also don't think a random comment on lemmy she's not aware of hurt her feelings.

Wait, are you that lady? That would explain a lot. Maybe there's some trauma behind it. Sorry, I just didn't think you would see it. I will be more careful int he future, promise.

[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

That's scorn + derision.

The argument was never about the lady, the lady her plight is a story telling device to make this abstract problem more relatable, to make the story more compelling and to get empathy + sympathy from the audience. The same way I tried to use my grandmother's experience as a story telling device to make you more empathic with people who are differently able than you. These kinds of people exist in every country, you may even know some without knowing it because it's not exactly written on our faces what our cognitive capabilities are. They deserve our sympathy and help if they want it, but to be scornful towards them is bad imo. I really don't like victim blaming.

What I'm trying to say is: Keep an open mind, don't let your prejudices determine your opinions about people, grow some empathy and try to be sympathetic with people's situations. Scorn is never the right answer.